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Thoughts: It’s Your Journey

June 28, 2016

Why you need to stop comparing yourself

Hands down, summer is my favorite season. But…there is something about summer that lends itself well to copious amounts of comparison.

Kids are graduating high school and comparing themselves to their fellow graduates who got into better colleges…or are moving farther away…or embarking on more exciting journeys…

College students are looking around at their friends and the internships or summer jobs they locked down, comparing them to the side gigs they got to make ends meet…

College graduates are comparing themselves to their successful classmates who already have secured down a job or moved to a new city…

Other friends are getting married in droves as we all look on in envy, thinking our love story will never happen or be as great as their love story…

Coworkers are moving up and into bigger, better and more beautifully-decorated places, making our apartments or homes feel smaller…

Not to mention the bikini bodies…

And the luscious tans…

And the flawless faces…

There’s just so much going on in the summer–which is great–but it also means there’s so much to compare ourselves to. Of course FB, Twitter, Insta and Snapchat don’t help much, as life now looks like a beautiful, curated thing.

Which, um, by the way–IT’S NOT!

Consider this a very random reminder that your journey is your own. And that no story, online or otherwise, is as perfect as it may appear.

Life is long and one day you will find your happiness–the job you ultimately want, the significant other you can love forever, the stable home of your dreams. You deserve it. Remind yourself you deserve it, and ultimately it will happen.

It’s all within reach, just maybe not immediate reach. And that’s okay! Our society has become obsessed with immediacy, but what happened to the slow grind? The eventual gratification? The working at something good until it becomes great?

Everything happens for a reason. Just try and notice beauty, appreciate love and celebrate your own blessings, because you’d be surprised by how many there are.

And when that doesn’t work, just know that you are *not* alone in feeling left out or lesser. We all feel it, no matter how healthy or happy we may look. Envy’s gross like that–don’t let it win.

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